Too often we get blindsided by our relationships falling apart. We may have seen warning signs or noticed pieces breaking off, but we don’t always have the tools or insight to make the necessary repairs. Relationships don’t come with a manual. With marriage, we don’t truly know what we’re signing up for. On the contrary, we are often given impossible, unrealistic and fantastical messages about what marriage looks like. Frankly, most of those ideas are outdated, unattainable, and place added strain on a loving partnership. We have a primal desire to be known, to be seen, to connect intimately with another person. Most of our issues in relationships can be traced back to how we are or are not connecting with each other. What you’ve come to believe about your partner, who you’ve decided you are to them, and what you’ve decided about them impacts the relationship. One of you makes a move: so then, does the other, and you carefully craft the unique dance that is your relationship.
Two individuals in the exact same relationship can have very different views of what is taking place. I love helping people come together to recognize those unique vantage points. Relationship counseling helps resolve differences, heals resentment, deepens your understanding of your partner and yourself, and nurtures meaningful, intimate connection.
I work with couples of all varieties: premarital, long-term committed relationships, LGBTQ+, traditional and non-traditional married couples. I have an interest in the shifting relationship landscape and what it means to be a couple in the 21st century, amidst the forces of technology with the modern realities of internet dating, social media, sexting, porn access and ghosting. I look at the nature of commitment during this era of an evolving relationship climate. My work is informed by John and Julie Gottman’s Gottman Method, Stan Tatkin’s PACT Therapy, Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy (RLT), and the work of renowned couples therapist, Esther Perel. Common themes I address in couples counseling are: